Other's Eyes...

I hear ya, but where's the empathy?  If you hadn't lost a child, yet tried to imagine it, how would YOU want to be treated?  I can't imagine telling anyone to 'get over the death of "anyone", let alone one's child'.  We are NOT the same people anymore, either!  Why is it ok when 'oh, she has had a hard time since her mom passed' but when our child has passed, we are expected to be the same person when our child was alive?  I'm really struggling w/friends about this & the domino effect of tragedies that have happened since - I'm a negative person; I'm always in pain; I'm depressed; I need to move on, etc.  I have lost my child, my home & all our belongings & my physical health & am on a lot of pain meds - all in under 14 mos - How AM I supposed to be 'in everyone else's eyes'???